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Proverbs 7

Sunday Morning Bible Study

September 24, 2017

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The book of Proverbs is all about wisdom.

Wisdom is not about knowing facts.

Wisdom is about knowing what to do with what you know.
Wisdom is knowing when to do it.
Wisdom is knowing how to do it.

The first nine chapters of Proverbs are small “mini-lectures” that Solomon gives to his son.

7:1-5 Dear Son

:1 My son, keep my words, And treasure my commands within you.

treasuretsaphan – to hide, treasure, treasure or store up

:2 Keep my commands and live, And my law as the apple of your eye.

:2 as the apple of your eye

apple‘iyshown – pupil of the eye

(Proverbs 7:2 NKJV) Keep my commands and live, And my law as the apple of your eye.

:3 Bind them on your fingers; Write them on the tablet of your heart.

:3 Write them on the tablet of your heart

tabletluwach – board, slab, tablet, plank

This is the same word that’s used to describe the two “tablets” of stone that God wrote the Ten Commandments on.

The Psalmist wrote,

(Psalm 119:11 NKJV) Your word I have hidden in my heart, That I might not sin against You.

The New Covenant was to be marked by God writing His laws on our hearts instead of on stone tablets:

(Jeremiah 31:33 NKJV) But this is the covenant that I will make with the house of Israel after those days, says the Lord: I will put My law in their minds, and write it on their hearts; and I will be their God, and they shall be My people.

:4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” And call understanding your nearest kin,

:4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,”

We’ve talked about how Solomon personifies “Wisdom” as a woman.

:5 That they may keep you from the immoral woman, From the seductress who flatters with her words.

:5 keep you from the immoral woman

immoralzuwr – to be strange, be a stranger

; strange woman, prostitute, harlot (meton)

seductressnokriy – foreign, alien; harlot

I’ve said this before and will repeat it again.

Women aren’t the only ones who are “immoral”, and men aren’t the only ones who are tempted.
Those of you gals who struggle with sexual temptations are not some sort of obscure aberration.

Many women struggle just like you do.

Solomon does not want his son’s life ruined with immorality.

We’ve defined “immorality” as any kind of sex outside the boundary of marriage.
God created sex to be a wonderful thing to be enjoyed, as long as it is inside the boundary of a marriage between a man and a woman.

:1 My son, keep my words


Parental Warnings

Solomon’s family had a history of sexual sin.
Solomon’s father (David) had committed adultery.

Bathsheba was the wife of one of David’s “Mighty Men”, a man named Uriah the Hittite.

To cover up the sin, David made arrangements to have Uriah killed in battle.

Solomon was the son of that relationship.

David confessed his sin to God, and God forgave him, but the example of sexual sin got passed down from David.

David’s oldest son Amnon would commit incest with his half-sister Tamar (2Sam. 13).
When David found out about it, he got angry, but there is no record of him doing or saying anything to Amnon about the sin. (2Sam. 13:21)

(2 Samuel 13:21 NKJV) —21 But when King David heard of all these things, he was very angry.

Perhaps David was too ashamed of his own sin to feel like he had the credibility of confronting Amnon.

David’s next son Absalom would eventually plot to overthrow David.
When Absalom marched his troops into Jerusalem, he took over David’s palace, and raped David’s concubines in a tent he had pitched on the palace roof, so everyone could see.
Even Solomon himself was not innocent when it came to sexual sin.
(1 Kings 11:1 NKJV) But King Solomon loved many foreign women…

The word “foreign” (nokriy) is the same word translated “seductress” in verse 5.

These “foreign” wives would turn Solomon’s heart away from a whole-hearted worship of Yahweh.

Whether Solomon wrote these warnings in Proverbs before or after 1Kings 11 is not certain.

But Solomon has the courage to raise the issue with his own son.

“Don’t do what I’ve done”.

Solomon’s son Rehoboam had problems, but there is no record of him having a problem with sexual sin.
It sounds as if he took his dad’s warnings to heart.
Parents, don’t be reluctant to discuss your past failings with your kids.
You may be thinking, “I don’t want to give them any ideas and inspire them to do the same thing.”

You won’t inspire them to sin if you’re honest about the consequences of what you did.

You may be thinking, “I’m too ashamed of what I did to tell my kids”.

Then I would council you to do two things.

First – You need to receive God’s forgiveness.

Jesus didn’t die on a cross to leave you wallowing in guilt and shame.  He died to forgive you.

(1 John 1:9 NKJV) If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Is this the truth or not?  Learn to receive it.

Second – Warn them anyway.  Do you want them experiencing the same shame you carry?

7:6-27 Temptation

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There’s a reason Kitten why the Water Bowl is forbidden.

We are going to be talking about “forbidden things today”.

Though Solomon will be talking about sexual temptation, the case study before us is a picture of all sorts of temptations.

:6 For at the window of my house I looked through my lattice,

:7 And saw among the simple, I perceived among the youths, A young man devoid of understanding,

simplepethiy – simple, foolish, open-minded

youthsben – son, grandson, child, member of a group

young manna’ar – a boy, lad, servant, youth, retainer

devoidchacer – in need of, lacking, needy, in want of

:7 A young man devoid of understanding

understandingleb – inner man, mind, will, heart, understanding

He lacks “heart”

:8 Passing along the street near her corner; And he took the path to her house

:8 he took the path to her house


That first step

The naïve young man’s first mistake was making that turn that led him down this street.
James gives us a similar picture.
(James 1:14–15 NKJV) —14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. 15 Then, when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, brings forth death.

It starts with desires (lust) and lust leads to dangerous actions, which results in death.

My lusts may not be for the things that you lust for, but we all have a sin nature, and our sin natures long to do the wrong things.

One of the steps of overcoming sin in our lives is to recognize what “tempts” us, and then don’t go down that “path”.

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There was once a man on a diet who prayed, “Lord, if you don’t want me to go get donuts, then let all the parking spots be taken at Krispy Kreme.” But he had to give in to the donuts because sure enough, when he got there, there was a parking spot right in front of the door … after his twentieth time around the block.

You’ll miss all the fighting over donuts if you just go down another path.

Don’t be looking for trouble, or you’ll find it.


Behind the Scenes

What got him going down her street in the first place?
Some of us need to take the time to recognize that there can be certain things that “trigger” us into turning down that street.

For example – Resentment can creep into my heart when I don’t like the way things are going in my life.  Maybe somebody said something cruel, or someone doesn’t do something the way I want it to be done.

Will I “self-medicate” to make myself feel better by resorting to my sin?

You might self-medicate with drugs or alcohol, but others of us will resort to pornography or a trip to Baskin-Robbins.

You can’t always control the temptations around you, and you can’t always control the things that will trigger you.

You CAN control how you will respond to those things.


The Five Chapter Book: (Heard on Focus on the Family)

Chapter One: A man was walking down the street. He fell into a hole. He groped his way in the darkness. After a long time, he made his way out of the hole.

Chapter Two: A man was walking down the same street. He pretended not to see the hole. He fell in. After a long time, he made his way out of the hole.

Chapter Three: A man was walking down the same street. He sees the hole. He falls in. He says it’s not his fault. After a long time, he made his way out of the hole.

Chapter Four: A man walks down the same street. He sees the hole. He knows it’s there. He tries to walk around it. He falls in. He knows it’s his fault. He quickly gets out.

Chapter Five: A man takes another street.

Taking another “path” might be as simple as turning your head, or it may mean physically leaving a room.
Sometimes you can’t avoid that place of temptation.
You didn’t go down that street on purpose, but there you are.
Joseph had that kind of experience.
(Genesis 39:6–12 NKJV) —6 …Now Joseph was handsome in form and appearance. 7 And it came to pass after these things that his master’s wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, “Lie with me.” 8 But he refused and said to his master’s wife, “Look, my master does not know what is with me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my hand. 9 There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, because you are his wife. How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” 10 So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her. 11 But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, 12 that she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.

The foolish man went into the street where the woman lived to see what would happen.

Joseph was just going to work.

When the temptation was just ideas, Joseph responded appropriately.  He knew why he shouldn’t do it.

When the temptation got a hold of him, he fled.

:9 In the twilight, in the evening, In the black and dark night.

:10 And there a woman met him, With the attire of a harlot, and a crafty heart.

:10 And there a woman met him

He was looking for this woman, and there she was.

:10 With the attire of a harlot

You could say she was “dressed to kill”.  Literally.

I’m all for dressing nicely and fashionably.

Just be careful what your choice of attire is saying.
Some men and women have so little self-respect that they dress in a way to draw attention to their body instead of their soul.
Healthy relationships go way beyond physical attraction.

:10 and a crafty heart

The word for “heart” is the same one used to describe the young man who lacked “understanding”.

While he lacks a heart, her heart has a “hidden agenda”

attireshiyth – garment

harlotzanah – to commit fornication, be a harlot, play the harlot

craftynatsar – to guard, watch, watch over, keep

HCSB – “hidden agenda”

heartleb – inner man, mind, will, heart, understanding

While the foolish youth is “lacking” in “heart”, she has a crafty or “hidden” heart.

:11 She was loud and rebellious, Her feet would not stay at home.

loudhamah – to murmur, growl, roar, cry aloud, mourn, rage, sound, make noise, tumult, be clamorous, be disquieted, be loud, be moved, be troubled, be in an uproar

rebelliouscarar – to rebel, be stubborn, be rebellious

:12 At times she was outside, at times in the open square, Lurking at every corner.

:13 So she caught him and kissed him; With an impudent face she said to him:

impudent‘azaz – to be strong;  (Hiphil) to make firm, strengthen

She knows what she’s doing.

You may not know what you’re doing when you wander into temptation, but temptation knows what it’s doing.
It’s out to capture you.

:14 “I have peace offerings with me; Today I have paid my vows.

:14 I have peace offerings with me

Peace offerings were sacrifices performed as a way of celebrating something with God.

These were unique because the whole family got to eat part of the sacrifice, like having Christmas dinner with God.
A peace offering might be made because you were thankful for something God did (Lev. 7:12)
(Leviticus 7:12 NKJV) If he offers it for a thanksgiving, then he shall offer, with the sacrifice of thanksgiving, unleavened cakes mixed with oil, unleavened wafers anointed with oil, or cakes of blended flour mixed with oil.
A peace offering might be made because you made a promise (vow) to God, He fulfilled His part, and you now celebrate with a sacrifice. (Lev. 7:16)
(Leviticus 7:16 NKJV) But if the sacrifice of his offering is a vow or a voluntary offering, it shall be eaten the same day that he offers his sacrifice; but on the next day the remainder of it also may be eaten;
That seems to be the case here.  The woman made a promise to God, and now she’s presented a sacrifice to God.
This particular peace offering came with a special rule, that the meat left over from the sacrifice had to be eaten either the same day as the sacrifice, or the next day.

It had an expiration date.

She made the sacrifice “today”, and there’s only one day left to eat all that leftover meat.

And eating meat was not a daily thing in those days.  You don’t want to waste those steaks.


Temptation Surprises

There are two aspects of temptation that can catch us off guard here.
Sometimes temptation can hit us in the most unexpected places – such as at church, or with other believers.
This woman sounds a little “religious”, so what could be wrong with that?
This woman only has a day left to eat all that meat.  You wouldn’t want to waste that would you?  Come on over!
Temptation likes to tell you that you need to do this certain thing, and you need to do it NOW.

No you don’t.

:15 So I came out to meet you, Diligently to seek your face, And I have found you.

:16 I have spread my bed with tapestry, Colored coverings of Egyptian linen.

tapestrymarbad – spread, coverlet

Colored coveringschatubah – colored fabric, dark-hued stuffs

:17 I have perfumed my bed With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.

cinnamonqinnamown – cinnamon

:17 myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon

The ultimate in sensual experience

:18 Come, let us take our fill of love until morning; Let us delight ourselves with love.

take our fillravah – to be satiated or saturated, have or drink one’s fill

delight‘alac – to rejoice; (Hithpael) to delight oneself

love‘ohab – loved object; love

:19 For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a long journey;

:20 He has taken a bag of money with him, And will come home on the appointed day.”

:18 let us take our fill of love until morning

We use similar words. We call sexual intercourse “making love”.

lovedowd – beloved, love;

It’s used 39 times in the Song of Solomon (out of 61 times in the OT) and translated “beloved” or “love”
Here it carries the sense of sexual intercourse between two people
From a word meaning to “boil”


Best Love

The young fool shows us what the world teaches about love.
There’s a delight to his eyes with colorful tapestries.
There’s a delight to his nose with all kinds of spices.
There’s no fear of getting caught or paying any consequences because the husband is gone for awhile.
In the world, love is all about “me”
With God’s idea of love, it’s all about “you”.
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Did you notice how one guy seems more oriented in what he gets out of things while the other guy is thinking about his wife?
Paul wrote,

(1 Corinthians 13:4–7 NLT) —4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.

God’s idea of love is learning to put the other person first.
In marriage, loving your spouse involves sex, but if you want to learn how to have great sex, stop focusing on what you are going to get out of it, and learn to focus on the other person.
For those of you who are single – Do you build your relationships on what you’re going to get out of it, or do you focus on what you put into it?

:21 With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, With her flattering lips she seduced him.

flatteringcheleq – smoothness, seductiveness, flattery; excessive or insincere praise

Temptation says to you, “this looks good on you…”

seducednadach – (Hiphil) to thrust, move, impel; turning someone away from what is right

:21 With her flattering lips she seduced him

Flattery is like chewing gum—enjoy it briefly, but don’t swallow it!

:22 Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, Or as a fool to the correction of the stocks,

:22 as a fool to the correction of the stocks

There is some question as to how to translate the last phrase because some of the ancient versions have slightly different words.

(Proverbs 7:22 NASB95) Suddenly he follows her As an ox goes to the slaughter, Or as one in fetters to the discipline of a fool,
(Proverbs 7:22 ESV) All at once he follows her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, or as a stag is caught fast

:23 Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, He did not know it would cost his life.

liverkabed – the liver

:23 He did not know it would cost his life


Sin’s Cost

The foolish youth didn’t think of the consequences until it was over.
Last week we read:
(Proverbs 6:32 NKJV) Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul.
Last week we started a list of the consequences of sexual sin.  A friend lovingly informed me I missed a few things.
Diminished capacity to trust
Low self esteem
Substance abuse
Vengeance – somebody is going to want to get even.
Death (suicide)
Ball Marker
A Golfer walks into the pro shop at the local course and asks the golf pro if they sell ball markers. The golf pro says, “Yes, they are just $1.00 each.” The guy gives the golf pro a dollar and says he’ll take one. The golf pro opens the register, puts the dollar in the tray and with a big smile hands the guy a quarter.

That’s the way it is with sin – you get back far less than you put into it.

Ultimately, the greatest cost of sin is how it separates us from God.
(Romans 6:23 NKJV) For the wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.

While sin wants to kill you, Jesus wants to give you life.

He paid for your sins in order to bring us back to God if we will only trust Him.

:24 Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay attention to the words of my mouth:

childrenben – son, grandson, child, member of a group

:25 Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not stray into her paths;

:26 For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were strong men.

:27 Her house is the way to hell, Descending to the chambers of death.

:25 Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways


Help with sin

God does not want you helpless in the face of temptation.  There are several things God has provided for us to help in our struggle with sin.
(Romans 6:8–11 NLT) —8 And since we died with Christ, we know we will also live with him. 9 We are sure of this because Christ was raised from the dead, and he will never die again. Death no longer has any power over him. 10 When he died, he died once to break the power of sin. But now that he lives, he lives for the glory of God. 11 So you also should consider yourselves to be dead to the power of sin and alive to God through Christ Jesus.

Our connection with Jesus gives us a connection of death – dying to the power of sin.

Our connection to Jesus also gives us life – resurrection – so we can live for God.

The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is available to help you conquer sin.

(Romans 8:11 NLT) The Spirit of God, who raised Jesus from the dead, lives in you. And just as God raised Christ Jesus from the dead, he will give life to your mortal bodies by this same Spirit living within you.

This may sound like a difficult concept to grasp, but it’s truth.

We need to realize the power that’s available to us in Jesus.

Holy Spirit
When you believed in Jesus, the Holy Spirit came to live inside of you.
The Spirit also gives us power over sin.

(Galatians 5:16 NKJV) I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.

We need to learn to yield more and more to what the Holy Spirit is wanting to do in our lives.

We’re going to talk more about this on Thursday night.

(James 5:16 NKJV) Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.

Some of you have resisted this idea

You have thought each week that you are probably going to be able to handle this on your own.

Ask for help.

How many of you have found that the missing key to overcoming your sin was to finally admit it to someone else and ask for help?