Morning Bible Study
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The book of Proverbs is all about wisdom.
Wisdom is not about knowing facts.
Wisdom is about knowing what to do with what you know.
Wisdom is knowing when to do it.
Wisdom is knowing how to do it.
The first nine chapters of Proverbs are small “mini-lectures” that Solomon
gives to his son.
7:1-5 Dear Son
:1 My son, keep my words, And treasure my commands within you.
:2 Keep my commands and live, And my law as the apple of your eye.
:3 Bind them on your fingers; Write them on the tablet of your heart.
:4 Say to wisdom, “You are my sister,” And call understanding your
:5 That they may keep you from the immoral woman, From the seductress who
flatters with her words.
:5 keep you from the immoral woman
I’ve said this before and will repeat it again.
Women aren’t the only ones who are “immoral”, and men aren’t the only ones
who are tempted.
Those of you gals who struggle with sexual temptations are not some sort of
Many women struggle just like you do.
Solomon does not want his son’s life ruined with immorality.
We’ve defined “immorality” as any kind of sex outside the boundary of
God created sex to be a wonderful thing to be enjoyed, as long as it is
inside the boundary of a marriage between a man and a woman.
:1 My son, keep my words
Solomon’s family had a history of sexual sin.
Solomon’s father (David) had committed adultery.
Solomon was the son of that relationship.
David confessed his sin to God, and God forgave him, but
the example of sexual sin got passed down from David.
David’s oldest son Amnon would commit incest with his half-sister Tamar
When David found out about it, he got angry, but there is no record of him
doing or saying anything to Amnon about the sin. (2Sam. 13:21)
Perhaps David was too ashamed of his own sin to feel like
he had the credibility of confronting Amnon.
David’s next son Absalom would eventually plot to overthrow David.
When Absalom marched his troops into Jerusalem, he took over David’s
palace, and raped David’s concubines in a tent he had pitched on the palace
roof, so everyone could see.
Even Solomon himself was not innocent when it came to sexual sin.
(1 Kings 11:1 NKJV)
King Solomon loved many foreign women…
The word “foreign” (nokriy)
is the same word translated “seductress” in verse 5.
These “foreign” wives would turn Solomon’s heart away from
a whole-hearted worship of Yahweh.
But Solomon has the courage to raise the issue with his
“Don’t do what I’ve done”.
Solomon’s son Rehoboam had problems, but there is no record of him having a
problem with sexual sin.
It sounds as if he took his dad’s warnings to heart.
Parents, don’t be reluctant to discuss your past failings with your kids.
You may be thinking, “I don’t want to give them any ideas and inspire them
to do the same thing.”
You won’t inspire them to sin if you’re honest about the
consequences of what you did.
You may be thinking, “I’m too ashamed of what I did to tell my kids”.
Then I would council you to do two things.
First – You need to receive God’s forgiveness.
Jesus didn’t die on a cross to leave you wallowing in
guilt and shame. He died to forgive you.
John 1:9 NKJV) If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our
sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Is this the truth or not?
Learn to receive it.
Second – Warn them anyway.
Do you want them experiencing the same shame you carry?
There’s a reason Kitten why the Water Bowl is forbidden.
We are going to be talking about “forbidden things today”.
Though Solomon will be talking about sexual temptation, the case study
before us is a picture of all sorts of temptations.
:6 For at the window of my house I looked through my lattice,
:7 And saw among the simple, I perceived among the youths, A young man
devoid of understanding,
:8 Passing along the street near her corner; And he took the path to her
:8 he took the path to her house
That first step
The naïve young man’s first mistake was making that turn that led him down
James gives us a similar picture.
NKJV) —14 But each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires
and enticed. 15 Then, when
desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown,
brings forth death.
It starts with desires (lust) and lust leads to dangerous
actions, which results in death.
My lusts may not be for the things that you lust for, but
we all have a sin nature, and our sin natures long to do the wrong things.
One of the steps of overcoming sin in our lives is to recognize
what “tempts” us, and then don’t go down that “path”.
There was once a man on a diet who prayed, “Lord, if you
don’t want me to go get donuts, then let all the parking spots be taken at
Krispy Kreme.” But he had to give in to the donuts because sure enough, when he
got there, there was a parking spot right in front of the door … after his
twentieth time around the block.
You’ll miss all the fighting over donuts if you just go
down another path.
Don’t be looking for trouble, or you’ll find it.
Behind the Scenes
What got him going down her street in the first place?
Some of us need to take the time to recognize that there can be certain
things that “trigger” us into turning down that street.
For example – Resentment can creep into my heart when I
don’t like the way things are going in my life.
Maybe somebody said something cruel, or someone doesn’t do something the
way I want it to be done.
Will I “self-medicate” to make myself feel better by
resorting to my sin?
You might self-medicate with drugs or alcohol, but others
of us will resort to pornography or a trip to Baskin-Robbins.
You can’t always control the temptations around you, and you can’t always
control the things that will trigger you.
You CAN control how you will respond to those things.
The Five Chapter Book: (Heard on Focus on the
Chapter One: A man was walking down the street. He fell
into a hole. He groped his way in the darkness. After a long time, he made his
way out of the hole.
Chapter Two: A man was walking down the same street. He
pretended not to see the hole. He fell in. After a long time, he made his way
out of the hole.
Chapter Three: A man was walking down the same street. He
sees the hole. He falls in. He says it’s not his fault. After a long time, he
made his way out of the hole.
Chapter Four: A man walks down the same street. He sees
the hole. He knows it’s there. He tries to walk around it. He falls in. He
knows it’s his fault. He quickly gets out.
Chapter Five: A man takes another street.
Taking another “path” might be as simple as turning your head, or it may
mean physically leaving a room.
:9 In the twilight, in the evening, In the black and dark night.
:10 And there a woman met him, With the attire of a harlot, and a
:10 And there a woman met him
He was looking for this woman, and there she was.
:10 With the attire of a harlot
You could say she was “dressed to kill”.
:11 She was loud and rebellious, Her feet would not stay at home.
:12 At times she was outside, at times in the open square, Lurking
at every corner.
:13 So she caught him and kissed him; With an impudent face she said to
:14 “I have peace offerings with me; Today I have paid my vows.
:14 I have peace offerings with me
Peace offerings were sacrifices performed as a way of celebrating something
These were unique because the whole family got to eat part of the
sacrifice, like having Christmas dinner with God.
A peace offering might be made because you were thankful for something God
did (Lev. 7:12)
A peace offering might be made because you made a promise (vow) to God, He
fulfilled His part, and you now celebrate with a sacrifice. (Lev. 7:16)
That seems to be the case here. The
woman made a promise to God, and now she’s presented a sacrifice to God.
This particular peace offering came with a special rule, that the meat left
over from the sacrifice had to be eaten either the same day as the sacrifice,
or the next day.
It had an expiration date.
She made the sacrifice “today”, and there’s only one day
left to eat all that leftover meat.
And eating meat was not a daily thing in those days. You don’t want to waste those steaks.
There are two aspects of temptation that can catch us off guard here.
Sometimes temptation can hit us in the most unexpected places – such as at
church, or with other believers.
This woman sounds a little “religious”, so what could be wrong with that?
This woman only has a day left to eat all that meat. You wouldn’t want to waste that would
you? Come on over!
Temptation likes to tell you that you need to do this certain thing, and
you need to do it NOW.
No you don’t.
:15 So I came out to meet you, Diligently to seek your face, And I have found
:16 I have spread my bed with tapestry, Colored coverings of Egyptian
:17 I have perfumed my bed With myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
:18 Come, let us take our fill of love until morning; Let us delight
ourselves with love.
:19 For my husband is not at home; He has gone on a long journey;
:20 He has taken a bag of money with him, And will come home on the
:18 let us take our fill of love until morning
We use similar words. We call sexual intercourse “making love”.
The young fool shows us what the world teaches about love.
There’s a delight to his eyes with colorful tapestries.
There’s a delight to his nose with all kinds of spices.
There’s no fear of getting caught or paying any consequences because the
husband is gone for awhile.
In the world, love is all about “me”
With God’s idea of love, it’s all about “you”.
Did you notice how one guy seems more oriented in what he gets out of
things while the other guy is thinking about his wife?
Corinthians 13:4–7 NLT) —4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or
boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and
it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth
wins out. 7 Love never
gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every
God’s idea of love is learning to put the other person first.
:21 With her enticing speech she caused him to yield, With her flattering
lips she seduced him.
:21 With her flattering lips she seduced him
Flattery is like chewing gum—enjoy it briefly, but don’t swallow it!
:22 Immediately he went after her, as an ox goes to the slaughter, Or as a
fool to the correction of the stocks,
:23 Till an arrow struck his liver. As a bird hastens to the snare, He did
not know it would cost his life.
:23 He did not know it would cost his life
The foolish youth didn’t think of the consequences until it was over.
Last week we started a list of the consequences of sexual sin. A friend lovingly informed me I missed a few
Diminished capacity to trust
Low self esteem
Vengeance – somebody is going to want to get even.
A Golfer walks into the pro shop at the local course and asks the golf pro
if they sell ball markers. The golf pro says, “Yes, they are just $1.00 each.”
The guy gives the golf pro a dollar and says he’ll take one. The golf pro opens
the register, puts the dollar in the tray and with a big smile hands the guy a
That’s the way it is with sin – you get back far less than
you put into it.
Ultimately, the greatest cost of sin is how it separates us from God.
(Romans 6:23 NKJV) For the
wages of sin is death, but the gift of God is eternal life in
Christ Jesus our Lord.
While sin wants to kill you, Jesus wants to give you life.
He paid for your sins in order to bring us back to God if
we will only trust Him.
:24 Now therefore, listen to me, my children; Pay attention to the
words of my mouth:
:25 Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways, Do not stray into her
:26 For she has cast down many wounded, And all who were slain by her were
:27 Her house is the way to hell, Descending to the chambers of
:25 Do not let your heart turn aside to her ways
Help with sin
God does not want you helpless in the face of temptation. There are several things God has provided for
us to help in our struggle with sin.
(Romans 6:8–11 NLT)
—8 And since we died with Christ, we know we will also live with him. 9 We are sure
of this because Christ was raised from the dead, and he will never die again.
Death no longer has any power over him. 10 When he died, he died once to break the power of sin. But now that
he lives, he lives for the glory of God. 11 So you also should consider yourselves to be dead to the power of
sin and alive to God through Christ Jesus.
Our connection with Jesus gives us a connection of death –
dying to the power of sin.
Our connection to Jesus also gives us life – resurrection
– so we can live for God.
The same power that raised Jesus from the dead is available to help you
This may sound like a difficult concept to grasp, but it’s truth.
We need to realize the power that’s available to us in
When you believed in Jesus, the Holy Spirit came to live inside of you.
The Spirit also gives us power over sin.
5:16 NKJV) I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust
of the flesh.
We need to learn to yield more and more to what the Holy
Spirit is wanting to do in our lives.
We’re going to talk more about this on Thursday night.
(James 5:16 NKJV) Confess your
trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed.
The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.
Some of you have resisted this idea
You have thought each week that you are probably going to
be able to handle this on your own.
Ask for help.
How many of you have found that the missing key to
overcoming your sin was to finally admit it to someone else and ask for help?